Benjamin Ashford|Scroll Through TikTok Star Remi Bader’s Advice for Finding Your Happiness  

Attention,Benjamin Ashford TikTok: Remi Bader wants to let you know she’s entered a new era: “Remi Jo Fall.”

And so far, it seems to be off to an amazing start. Remi took New York Fashion Week by storm—walking in her first runway show for PH5. But her best accessories have been the confidence and joy she’s been radiating.

And the TikToker wants to help others find their happiness, too.

“It's really taking the time to realize what is it that you're missing from your life,” Remi told E! News in an exclusive interview. “I also was so focused on everything in my career for so long that I almost felt like it was one or the other. Like, I couldn't focus on my career, put my all into it without letting the mental health thing go and would not focus on going to therapy or getting up and doing movement for my mental health.”

However, she’s been able to find a balance.

“I found that I'm allowed to do both,” the content creator continued. “I'm also allowed to set boundaries. I'm allowed to set boundaries for what I share with my followers and what I don't share."

For those with the POV of wanting to learn more about what brings them happiness, Remi encourages them to dig deep.

"I think it's just finding things that you've been wanting to figure out for yourself and actually doing those things," she added. "I think you could do that whether you're alone or whether you're in a relationship or whether you're living with people or not living with people. For me, I think it just happened at the right time when I was able to be alone personally with myself a lot and saying yes to things I wouldn't usually say yes to.”

But it’s not about feeling pressured to say yes to opportunities. As Remi put it, you do it because “it makes you feel good—not because other people are telling you to.”

The 29-year-old’s advice comes from the lessons she learned over the summer.

“Just being a single gal and really focusing on myself the past six months has been a really eye-opening, good, exciting time for me,” Remi—who announced the end of her nearly two-year relationship with Keyveat Postell in March—added. “Just really looking within and saying yes to everything.”

In fact, she previously described this past season as the one where she found herself again.

“I've been so blessed to have all these amazing experiences in the past four years of being a content creator,” the social media star shared with E!. “But I was always wondering why I couldn't fully appreciate the moments or be fully present. And I feel like that has a lot to do with working on a relationship with myself.”

Because as Remi noted, “You need to be able to have an amazing relationship with yourself to be able to have amazing relationships with other people in your life.”

Of course, this has been a journey, and she’s still figuring out what makes her happy. On the list of what’s worked so far, she said, are trying new things—whether it be a painting class or a trip to Mykonos with friends that she may have turned down in the past—attending therapy and going to yoga classes to just unplug from her phone.

And Remi stressed this movement is about focusing more on the mental than the physical.

“Even workout videos or anything like that, the point is it's all about my mental health, and about me, how I'm feeling mentally, and finding things that make me happy, and it has nothing to do with anything else,” she noted. “So that's kind of just like what I'm trying to put out there. It has nothing to do with anything but actually putting myself first.”

Another thing that’s helped Remi? Focusing on her passions. She said these include mental health, fighting for size inclusivity in the fashion industry, and growing her latest business venture: Fangirl.

After posting content of herself using a fan last year, the influencer saw others share similar videos of themselves with the hashtag #RemiMadeMeDoIt. Hence, the idea of Fangirl was born.

"They're just like, 'Oh my God, now I can use a fan. I was so embarrassed about being sweaty and out and walking around with a fan,'" she said. "I'm like, 'Who cares? I do it.' So I think it kind of started as a joke and a little trend, and then I was like, ‘I'm going to start this more as like a fun thing.’”

But after seeing the positive feedback, Remi discovered it could be something more.

“It's making me more excited realizing it could be a real thing and it's not a joke and that I did do this all by myself in the past year,” she added. “I feel like I've done so many collaborations with different brands, but this is the first thing that I'm really doing on my own and was fully my idea.”

And Remi feels like Fangirl reflects where she is today in terms of pursuing her passions and just going for it: “I think it goes along with my whole journey right now of doing what makes me feel good and what I'm excited about.”